I did want to follow up as I am guilty of what irritates me about others - I point to a specific use-case and make blanket statements. Just as you pointed to your family and asked for understanding, I jumped in with my extended family which is so closed-minded and rejects anything that conflicts (even slightly) with their world-views. A family of immigrants chanting "build the wall", and rejecting out of hand providing assistance for anyone that didn't "earn" it, even though they themselves have been (and continue to be) recipients of large amounts of "socialised" subsidies.
I will however, give others the benefit of the doubt and will listen better