Really good points here, Matthew. I can't ask for anyone of "privelage" (I use quotes as the the word is not an absolute) to change their history - but I can ask that they acknowledge some unique advantages. Working hard is no guarantee of success, even though it may be a requirement.

I think you'd enjoy this podcast from Malcolm Gladwell that touches on the differences between (as you aptly put) "making" good choices and "having" good choices: https://www.pushkin.fm/episode/carlos-doesnt-remember/